0045BS - Proverbs 5 - Bible Study

We explore God's divine wisdom on marital fidelity and how to protect our relationships from the destructive forces of temptation and adultery through Proverbs 5.

• Understanding God's priority structure: God first, spouse second, children third, then work and ministry
• How misaligned priorities create vulnerability to affairs and temptation
• Affairs don't "just happen" but are deliberately pursued through a series of choices
• The importance of avoiding environments and relationships that invite temptation
• Why modesty matters in protecting not just your marriage but others' marriages
• Recognizing the workplace as a common setting for developing inappropriate relationships
• The beauty of marital intimacy as God designed it—"be intoxicated always with her love"
• The consequences of infidelity: "His own iniquities will capture him"
• How forgiveness and proper alignment can restore damaged relationships

Join us each weekday morning for our three battles: cultivating humility and gratitude, pursuing relationship with God through His Word, and praying for one another as we lock our shields of faith together.

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Chapters

• 0:00 Introduction to Daily Bible Battles
• 3:50 Morning Prayer of Gratitude
• 7:40 Proverbs 5: Warning Against Adultery
• 11:14 God's Priority Order for Relationships
• 19:55 Understanding How Affairs Begin
• 27:47 Embracing Your Spouse's Love
• 34:19 Closing Prayer and Shield of Faith

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:27

Welcome to your daily battle where we do a Bible study and fight three battles every morning, monday through Friday. Here we fight to get a humble and grateful heart aligned on the Lord. That's battle number one, meaning that we are y'all, particularly the United States, but in the first world we are very entitled. But in the first world we are very entitled and have a really easy way of feeling sorry for ourselves. So the first step is getting a proper alignment to God, coming to God on your knees and gratitude rather than expectation. That is the key to our relationship with God is to come humbly in gratitude because we deserve nothing. Good morning, my love. Battle two we deliberately pursue a relationship with our Lord and Savior and Creator by studying his holy word and through prayer. And then three, we go to war for each other, we lock our shields of faith and we pray prayers of intercession and protection and peace for each other. All right, that's what we do here. This is about a 30-minute show. So glad you joined us and you're sharing. And you're sharing, hopefully, your first cup of coffee with us and give your first cup of coffee to God and you'll always get in the word. Okay, I know if you're like a coffee addict like myself, that if I tie this to God then I will never miss my Bible, right? So, again, I'm so glad you're here. We have been doing this now since Monday. We're in the book of Proverbs, which, if you missed a day, it's no big deal. You can go back and catch them all and rewatch them all. Right, we are in Proverbs 5 today. Today, which is, proverbs are basically wisdom, okay, and you know we've gone through verse 4 and number 5. You're going to see which is very important is we're going to talk about adultery and avoiding temptation um, which been sprinkled throughout a lot of these already, but it's repeated a lot. It's because it's important and God knows, we have enough divorce and enough fidelity in all of our lives, right? So let's go ahead and let's pray it in Heavenly Father.

Speaker 1: 3:11

Lord, we thank you, thank you for giving us another day to get it right. Lord, we thank you for the protections that you had over us last night, protecting us and our family, our homes. Lord, I pray that this time would bless you, this time would please you, this time would honor you and only you. Lord, we're so grateful for your grace, your divine grace, which calls us to you, gives us access to you, cleanses us from our sin and unites us with you, and also your common grace, your creation, lord.

Speaker 1: 4:01

We thank you for the heavens and stars, and sun, the moon. We thank you for this earth, from everything in it, from the tallest peaks to the deepest ocean, everything in between the animals and the plant life and everything in between that you made. That is good, that is good, lord. We thank you for sunrises and sunsets. How beautiful they are. Thank you for the smell of fresh morning rain, flowers. We thank you for the sound of waves breaking on the shore and children's laughter. We thank you for the taste of good food and drink. We thank you for a cool breeze on a hot day like we have here in the summer now, A warm fire caught in the heat of a warm fire on a cold day.

Speaker 1: 5:08

Lord, we thank you for everyone in our lives. Help us to treasure every moment of people around us, or they can be gone in a blink of an eye. Help us to leave nothing unsaid. Help us to always be present. Help us to love, like you. Truth, lord, I pray that you would be with us during this time. Give us discernment in your word In Jesus' name. We pray amen.

Speaker 1: 5:40

All right, battle number one done. Hey, how's it going there? We go. Hello, tanya, daniel, and I hope I pronounced that right Welcome. So battle number one done.

Speaker 1: 5:56

Let's go ahead and go to battle number two, which is pursuing a relationship with God, studying his word, and I'm going to be reading out of the Legacy Standard Bible. I just, I love, I love my ESV Study Bible. It is as the best study notes. I find they're second to none on so many things, but I just find the language of the Legacy Standard Bible it's just more appealing to my way. I read in my mind and, and it's so. So we're gonna be doing out of that. But the study notes and a lot of commentary I'm using is usually out of the ESV.

Speaker 1: 6:45

So, hey, good morning Michael. Good to see you brother. See you brother. Greetings from Pakistan. Well, hey, awesome, be safe, michael. Good to see you, another brother in Christ. So let's go ahead and get into his word.

Speaker 1: 7:01

Now we're in Proverbs, chapter 5, okay, and this is a very important bit of wisdom from God. So, warning against adultery, my son, pay attention to my wisdom, incline your ear to my discernment. That you may keep discretion, that your lips may guard knowledge. Okay. And now we're going to get into what we're warning against. Well, the lips of a strange woman drip honey, okay. And now we're going to get into what we're warning against. Well, the lips of a strange woman drip honey. Smoother than oil is her speech, but her end is bitter as wormwood. Now, wormwood is very, very bitter to the taste. It's a plant which is extremely bitter that none of us have probably ever seen but that's what they're referring to there and sharp as a two-edged sword. Her feet go down to death. Her steps take hold of shield, which is an oral of the dead biblical times, lest she watch the path of life. Her tracks are unstable. She does not know it.

Speaker 1: 8:17

As you see, and we see this as particularly as we mature in our relationships, right, as we mature in our relationships as two imperfect, perfect people become married and become one flesh in the covenant under God, god particularly, you know if, if you guys aren't, you know, biblically, worldview, walking out Christians, that we tend to wound each other an awful lot. Even as Christians, we wound each other and we acquire scars and we acquire baggage. And the beauty of the gospel is when you're walking out a biblical worldview and actually applying the Bible to your life, you find that you are giving grace and those wounds don't stack up. But if you are walking in a Christian light or a non-Christian relationship, your traumas stack up, your traumas and your wounds stack up and stack up and stack. They're all like knife wounds. They're cuts that are not being sealed and you're bleeding from a million different places until eventually the life runs out of your marriage, right, and as we wound ourselves and as we go through life with children right, you know life is easy till kids. All right, life is easy to kids. You know it's. You can focus on your wife and your wife can focus on you, can focus on you, and you know, and it's a wonderful time of all the best, a lot of the not all the best things, but a lot of great things happen during that period, and then you have kids and then you lose sleep and then you you start. Unfortunately, this happens far too often.

Speaker 1: 10:20

The. The relationship that we have God designed was both husband and wife, should be as follows their top relationship, their top priority, is God. Okay, so, top of the chain of command, god. Then is your spouse, your husband or wife. Then is your children, then is your job, and because he who does not provide for his family is worse than an infidel, meaning if you don't provide, that's the Bible I just quoted there. If you don't provide for your family, you are worse than an unbeliever. If you don't provide for your family, nothing else matters. Okay, you are worse than an unbeliever.

Speaker 1: 11:14

Okay, and then comes your ministry. All right if you're as a Christian, right. So your first ministry, right, obviously your ministry isn't with God. God is ministering to you through the Holy Spirit. After that it is you ministering to your wife or your husband. Right, that is your second, that is your top ministry. Then it is your children, passing on your Christian identity to your children.

Speaker 1: 11:48

You know the Catholics get this part, have a lot easier time with this. I'm not saying they get it right and that's the mistake, because I don't believe that, I'm not a Catholic. But when you have priests and nuns, it's easy to do ministry all the time because you have no other allegiance. Okay, it's just you and God. And then it goes right to work right in your ministry, and that's that model. Okay, and you can see how that all are parents and all you who are married out there can see how that is a lot simpler, because the rest of us have God, spouse right, then children right. So now you're there. Then children right. So now you're there. Then your work and ministry and everything else.

Speaker 1: 12:51

And what we find too often with Christian we'll call them leaders, pastors, ministers, whatever you want to call them. Whatever you want to call them is that they go God and then they go ministry and their families are a complete catastrophe. Complete catastrophe. Right, because they didn't have the proper alignment. Your ministry gets what's left over from your family. Now, if you're a master, this is why teachers and pastors should be so rare, because in order to be able to have enough left over to be productive, you have to be a really good discipler. You have to have, you know the Bible says you have to disciple your children. You want to be a pastor? You have to. You know, have to have passed on your Christian identity to your family first, because your family knows who you are and your wife knows who you are better than anyone, and if they aren't buying what you're doing, then your walk is inconsistent and you've got no business teaching anyone else. So again, that was a really long-winded way to get in here, the strange woman.

Speaker 1: 15:40

So as we acquire these wounds, we get exhausted with family and often the wife's priority the husband's priority, right is he's trying to make a living and you know he's trying to disciple his family appropriately. If he's aligned to God, he's doing that first, before work. But the wife often replaces the husband as her top priority and puts the kids over there. And what happens with that is now there's a misalignment. Now there is a betrayal. A betrayal where the two become one flesh is now something else. There's an idol between them and it's the children. Now, children are very important and they are needed and they are not independent and they are all those things. It's a team effort and I understand that, but you must remember that your spouse is your wife or your husband is the next person that's important to you after God. If you don't do that, you're going to have problems in your marriage and you're going to acquire wounds.

Speaker 1: 17:05

Many people don't do that and the kids become their passion and the husband is pushed to the side and the husband feels neglected. The husband feels like he can't do anything right, the wife's in rebellion and the house is in rebellion because we're already out of alignment Right. The husband is going and dying to self. He's out there trying to earn. He's trying to do this. He can only have marital relations with one person in the entire family, or, sorry, in the entire world, and that's his wife. And his wife is pouring out everything she has but nothing left over to her, to the kids. How often this is because the husband is neglectful and the husband isn't doing his part with the kids as well. So again, this isn't one sided on the wife, and the wife is exhausted because she's got to take care of the kids, because they can't take care of themselves, and there's nothing left for the husband because the husband isn't giving her space enough and enough relief to save energy for him.

Speaker 1: 18:12

So I'm not saying that, but this is how people trip and fall into marital affairs. And they don't trip and fall in it, they actually deliberately pursue and they say, oh, it just happened. No, no, no, no Affairs and all these other things don't trip and fall on it, they actually deliberately pursue and they say, oh, it just happened. No, no, no, no Affairs and all these other things don't just happen, they are deliberately pursued. Because what happens is and I've used this analogy and I'm stealing it from Paul Washer when you're walking along and all of a sudden a cobra comes up, what that cobra is, that temptation?

Speaker 1: 18:41

It's sin, it's death incarnate. When a cobra comes up, you can do one thing. You've got a couple seconds to make a decision. If you've got a machete, you can cut its head off, right. You can kill that sin or you have to run from it. But you don't sit there and admire it, you don't play with it, you don't converse with it, you don't hang with it. You don't converse with it, you don't hang around it and befriend it. Right, because it is sin, it is death, and that's what we see happen time and time again, for both men and women.

Speaker 1: 19:16

Now this is talking to sons about temptress of war, because a woman, a foreign woman and I don't mean like foreign out of country, but the forbidden woman she doesn't have any baggage with you, yet she gets to see the best of you. She's going to say you're amazing and you're awesome and this and that Because you're still putting your best foot forward with her and she's putting her best foot forward. So all the baggage that you have with your family and your wife is not there and you're feeling neglected and betrayed by your significant other and this next person thinks you're just awesome, right, that's where those honeyed words lips drip honey and smoother than oil is her speech. And that's why men who just want to be appreciated and respected and and yes have physical needs, just as women have physical needs. You guys shouldn't be denying each other. It drives significant other into, unfortunately, infidelity. So we must avoid the temptation, which is what this and all the other Proverbs go on.

Speaker 1: 20:42

And I know I'm really breaking this down because it's really important who we spend time around. You know you put. You know women who work and don't stay home. They are around men at work all the time and they're serving to bosses and they're doing bosses trips. And there's this misalignment now, because now the husband is in charge at home but the boss is in charge of work. But work is where she spends most of her life and you can see how that can lead to a problem and why so many affairs happen at work and in recreation. You know going to the gym how many affairs have started there. You know going to the gym how many affairs have started there. And again, this is a way of life.

Speaker 1: 21:37

Women dress modestly to not induce temptation for yourself and for men. Men do the same. You can tell an awful lot about somebody in their Christian walk based upon everything about them. They're beacons of light. Are they beacons of sensuality when they're walking around? I mean, you know, today I see people who call themselves Christians with their boobs hanging out all over social media and in yoga pants with their labia showing. I have no business seeing that as not your husband, and it shows where you prioritize your sensuality and your loyalties. So you know, I go to the gym where I work out here and I try not. You know, it is immodest wear everywhere, whereas if you look at my wife, when she works out, she's in a T-shirt, a loose T-shirt, and a pair of like gym shorts where you can't see all of her body parts. Why is that so hard? Why must you walk around in in pornographic nature in the gym? It doesn't make you faster, it doesn't make you stronger, it doesn't make you stronger. It doesn't make any of those things my wife said a lot of women joke about having a work husband. That's where it starts, exactly, exactly.

Speaker 1: 23:17

So again, let's get back into the text. You know I got sidetracked there, but I think it's really important that there is a lot of bad, like most mortal sins. There is a lot of bad decisions that lead you to that. All right, her tracks are unstable and she doesn't know it. She doesn't even know, she doesn't have a discernment, she's not close enough to God, she's not walking it out a biblical worldview to the point and she hasn't gone through enough sanctification. No, she's even wrong sometimes.

Speaker 1: 23:48

Now, picking up in verse 7. Now, my sons, listen to me. Do not turn away from the words of my mouth. Keep your way far from her Again, stay away. Do not go near the door of her house. And again, we're setting the limits. Don't go where you're going to be tempted. And again, we're setting the limits. Don't go where you're gonna be tempted. Don't go where you're gonna be tempted. Don't invite people into your circle that are tempting. You want to help and I understand you know, and particularly like when I'm dealing with a woman who's struggling and seeking ministerial help, I often turn them, if it's not a quick fix, over to Lauren Because, like Votie Bauckham and others, they won't even close the door of their office with a woman in their office to avoid the appearance of impropriety. So, again, avoid even their door. Keep your way far from her and do not go near the door, door of her house, lest you give your splendor to others and your years to the cruel one, lest strangers be satisfied with you by your strength and your painful and by your painful labor those in the house of a foreigner.

Speaker 1: 25:24

We're talking about the side effects of what happens when you're giving all of your resources to the forbidden woman. If you look over here, this is the ESV that I'm showing on the screen now, the slight differences in language. This is the ESV that I'm showing on the screen now, the slight differences in language. I pick it up in verse 11. And you groan at the end, at your end, when your flesh and your body are consumed because you've committed horrible sin and you say how have I hated discipline and my heart spurns reproof. I have not listened to the voice of my instructors and have not inclined my ear to my teachers. I was almost in utter ruin in the midst of the assembly of the congregation. I was almost cast out from the congregation and ruined in the church of God. Now, all this 15 to pretty much almost the end, except when we shift back to talking about the forbidden woman.

Speaker 1: 26:46

This is talking about your love. Okay that, your woman being a fountain of life to you. Okay, your wife being a fountain of life to you. So drink water, your wife, from your own cistern. Your wife Like, take in that love, that life, that passion, that love, that life, that passion, refresh from your own well, your own well-being, your wife.

Speaker 1: 27:13

Should your springs be dispersed abroad? Should your wife go giving her affections to everyone else? No, streams of water in the street, giving it to everyone in the street. No, that's the woman walking around in freaking Spanx and a sport bra, sharing everything she's got with everyone but her husband. Let them be for you alone and not for strangers. With you, let your fountain be blessed and be glad in the wife of your youth as a loving hind and graceful doe. Right, the animal that is ceremonially clean and thus fit for eating here often appear in wisdom literature. Just giving you a background, hind is not a word that most of us know. Ceremonially clean hind and graceful doe.

Speaker 1: 28:15

We're going to get into sexual language here. Let her breasts satisfy you at all times. Does that mean you shouldn't be denying your body to your husband or your wife? Be intoxicated always with her love. Now, intoxicated in the Bible, like 90% of the time, is a negative thing. Here it is a positive thing, it is a gift from God in your life. And be intoxicated always with her love. Now we go back to the other.

Speaker 1: 28:58

So why should you, my son, be intoxicated with a strange woman, embrace and embrace the bosom of a foreign woman? For the ways of a man are before the eyes of Yahweh. God sees what you're doing and he watches all his tracks. His own iniquities will capture him. Who is the wicked one? With the cords of his sin, he will be held fast. Your sin will bind you up. Your sin is your own prison. He will die. Held fast. Your sin will bind you up. Your sin is your own prison. He will die for lack of discipline. Because he refused to get away from the door, he refused to be around, he went into temptation, he did not heed the warnings to stay away from sin. Lack of discipline and in an abundance of his folly, he will stumble in intoxication. So again, so many people struggle in their marriage because they don't have proper priorities, proper priorities, and this is what happens. The temptation of the other woman or the other man come in, wreak havoc and destroy life.

Speaker 1: 30:25

So I hope you guys enjoyed this. Let's go ahead and pray it out. I'll pray for us all and lock our shields of faith together. Heavenly Father, lord, I thank you. I thank you for these men and women who have joined me today, who have locked their shields of faith around us and joined our ranks, joined our ranks, lord. We thank you for each and every one. Lord, I pray that you would give discernment to each person listening to this, watching this, hearing this, to avoid temptress tempter I enjoy in their own marriage. To find the proper alignment ordained at the top would help us all to recommit right now to you, lord, and to our spouses, that we shall put none on this earth before them. Help us to appreciate each other, help us to love one another. Most of all, help us to forgive one another.

Speaker 1: 32:01

Now, lord, I pray a prayer of protection and peace for this fellowship, the persecuted church, for our troops overseas, first responders at home and our veterans of yesteryear. Lord, I pray for our beloved country, america. I pray that you would turn from her sin, seek your face, hit her knees, repent. That you would see her, heal her so we could once again be one nation under god, indivisible, with liberty and justice for all. Now I call this fellowship, attention, to put on the full armor of God, strap on the shield of faith and pick up the sword of the Spirit.

Speaker 1: 32:59

A boldly step forward to join shield wall, locking shields to the left and right. We march forward to take ground for your kingdom and for your glory. In Jesus' name we pray. Amen. All right, everyone. God bless you. I will see you on Sunday at 7 and then back here on Monday. Tanya Daniel said please keep us in prayers. We have heavy rains and flooding. Lord, be with Tanya and people all over this world that are dealing with flooding issues and rain and fire and all the other things. I want to protect them in peace. Amen, all right, all right, everyone. God bless you. Thank you and I will see you later. Bye.